I am excited to say that I have decided to become a full time wife and mom. My mom likes to say I'm becoming a domestic goddess, but I like the way Kyle puts it: I'm getting my Master's in Motherhood. Telling some of my friends about my decision to stay home has brought on so many different responses; both good and bad. Apparently this is something I have to explain, by the way some people have responded and questioned my choice. Well, here it goes:
Firstly, this subject is something incredibly near and dear to me. My mother stayed home for me and my siblings and Kyle's mom did for his family too. I would like to thank each of them for this sacrifice. Being a mother is not easy. It is the one job that I think someone is completely emotionally invested. It's close to the heart, and that's what makes it so exhausting and worthwhile.
This is the part where I express my blunt opinion on the subject, which people may not like to hear. Please don't be offended by my thoughts and feelings, we are each entitled to our own. Here are mine:
I am incredibly grateful and fortunate that my husband provides us enough for me to stay home with our baby. It's a luxury that not everyone can afford. I am thankful for this opportunity. Saying that, I feel like people belittle those who choose to stay home with their children, and the importance that that holds in raising children. I think this is incredibly important, and my child's development and future children's lives are my top priority.
I want my kiddos to know I am always there for them; whether its just a regular day that they walk through the door from a hard day of school, or I'm cheering on the sidelines of a sport activity, or when a kiss is needed on an "ouchie". I want to be there for every moment. This is something that I desire more than anything; above having a career and entering the workforce.
I want my children to be responsible, fun loving, hard working, obedient children of our Heavenly Father and Savior. I honestly don't think that can be done on a part-time basis. At least I know I can't teach and exemplify those things for my kids on a limited time basis.
I have seen the look in some people's faces that says, "You're throwing your education away". It makes me sad that I can read that thought apparently on others faces. I can't think of another job more gratifying and worth applying all that I know.
Now, I understand that there are those of you that think differently than me. I understand that. Keep in mind that I just think this is the best choice for me. Each person chooses their path in life that is the best for themselves individually; and I say go and find what you think is best for you.
Yes, I have dreams and aspirations that I will have to put on hold for a little while. Yes, I want to continue my education further down the road. Yes, I eventually want to start my own business. I do have other dreams. But my dream right now is being able to provide for my family my knowledge, my time, and my love. I hope this helped explain my choices and my feelings.
Seriously, who wouldn't stay home with a cutie like this? |
Thanks for listening. Here are a few pictures of graduation that I would like to share:
Love this man more than anything! Thanks for your support. | ||||||
Good for you for standing up for what you believe to be the best for you and your family. I really respect that. But, I do have to say I disagree with your statement that "It(motherhood) is the one job that I think someone is completely emotionally invested." As a future teacher, I have to say I whole heartedly disagree and say that I think teachers can be completely emotionally invested in their jobs, because I definitely plan on being completely emotionally invested in my future students:) (and in my future kids too!) I think you are doing a great thing though, and it's good to know that Hayden has such a great mama!
ReplyDeleteI think that a teacher learns to love those children like her own. You are right, you are very emotionally invested as a teacher too.
DeleteMaren, I think you should post this on the Moms for Mitt site. It is very well said. Kudos to you for recognizing what is REALLY important.
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Maren, that is so beautifully written! I saw your post on facebook but hadn't seen this post yet. Oh I am so happy for you! Don't let anyone tell you anything different. You know what is best for you and your family and being a full time wife and mother is the best way a woman can spend her life. :-) Love you sweetie!
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